Life coaching is not merely a profession but a form of art. It has become popular fairly recently as an effective method for people to get help, offering them with their personal “guide” who tandems with them to working on all facets of their lives. It has altered the paradigm of how people seek help using a more client-centered approach.
A life coach never takes a client or session lightly. They view it as a sacred place for another individual, offering them the opportunity to be sincerely heard (for the first time in years for some people), and within that holy space are miracles waiting to happen.
The individual’s own problem-solving skills begin to surface, and they come to realize that they are capable of solving their problems sans other people’s advice. On its own this realization can change a life. The individual starts to view things from a whole new perspective and reaches into that part of themselves that already has all the answers. They take the reins to their own lives.
Listening totally – that is, with undivided attention fixed on the other individual, is a requirement of life coaching. It’s now rare for people be listened to our fast paced world these days. A life coach has a natural ability to listen. It is helpful for clients, especially when allowed to bare their souls fully, to have another person actually listen to them. Helping others in their quest for a good life needs more listening than speaking or teaching.
When a person is listened to with undisturbed focus on what they’re saying, they come up with their own solutions and decisions, and learn options they never saw before.
When picking a life coach there are specific qualities you need to look for. A life coach with plenty of certifications may not be able to listen well or possess inherent people skills, while another who has had no formal certification may have exceptional listening skills and high-value insights.
As you choose a life coach, spend time to ask yourself these questions:
Does the life coach listen well and give you their undivided attention?
Do you feel comfortable enough that you can be fully honest and open to them?
Do you even feel understood?
Do they feel passionate and sincere in what they do?
Do you feel like they really have your welfare at heart rather than some hidden motive?
A life coach should listen to you and guide you, not teach you what to do. They are neither consultants nor therapists. Remember, you are your own boss. If a prospective life coach tells you that he can run your life for you, be wary.